FATE



I hear your agony as you try to make 
sense, of all that  seems so senseless.
The devastation of being told that you 
have a brain injury, is an enormous loss.
It is so unacceptable and so hard to 
comprehend, that it seems unendurable.
In light of this revelation you certainly 
have a right to your anger, fury and grief.

Life is a series of upsets, but nothing can 
prepare us for the tragic loss of ourselves.
Self is the part of us that is our personality,
the part that makes us different from all
others. This is the part of our loss that so 
many without head injuries do not realize.
It is not necessarily that things are harder 
now, it is that we have changed forever.

To accept is to admit affirmatively to 
something that cannot possibly be denied.
Fate is defined as the supposed force, 
principles, or power that predetermines 
events. This means that fate cannot be changed.
But the manner in which we select  to survive 
fate can be. We can stay angry and choose to be 
miserable the rest of our lives. However, fate still
rules, and the only control left for us is the way 
we select to handle what fate has thrown our way.

No amount of loss, can take away the true beauty
found in life. All tragedy gets easier to bear with time. 
All  internal pain does ease with the passing of time. 
But the way you handle what fate has thrown your way
is totally up to you, and a matter of your personal choice.
No one can force acceptance on someone else for the 
things that cannot be changed. This is an individual choice.

The birds don't stop singing, no matter how devastating
the tragedy. The rivers don't quit flowing no matter how
great a loss someone experiences. You see life continues
to go on regardless of what catastrophe happens. The sun
continues to shine, the cries of new-born babies continue 
to bring joy. The flowers continue to bloom in all their 
beautiful glory. The only real decision is whether you are
courageous enough to go forward, even with an unfortunate
tragedy, that has changed life as you once knew it.

by: Debbie Wilson  
    7-2-96